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This was going to be longer and funkier and cooler. Then I got bored.

Plus shaving one stroke at a time is really slow. And not as much fun as you think.

In pool when I play it, there is a certain shot where to get the ball to pocket I have to hit it with a certain amount of force. Any less force and my control isn’t good enough and the ball doesn’t make it to the hole or angels away. However the amount of force I need to get the ball to the hole is too much, and the ball hits the back of the pocket and bounces out. So what I need to get the ball to the hole keeps the ball out of it.

I’m not sure if this is irony, Alanis irony or something else entirely.

I’ve noticed, I have this same issue with girls. Not holing balls, so to speak, but with getting them to like me. (Bear with me, I’m not going off on a myopic one I promise)

Girls generally like me most of all when I am “cool sevitz”^tm. Cool sevitz is fun and funky and quite entertaining to hang out with. My first gf I don’t even remember meeting the first time, but she remembered me. Because I was cool sevitz. (There’s a longer story in that that explains the details but it’s far less interesting). I might even go so far as to say non-girls like cool sevitz too, but who knows (who cares? do non-girls count as far as coolness counts?)

However if I like a girl, I turn into love-sick-puppy ( a term not coined by me, nor about me, but fits all the same). As love-sick-puppy I turn into gormless-idiot-sevitz. I over compensate complete. If you think you can over compensate, I can out over compensate you before breakfast without coffee. Add to that a healthy chunky dose of over thinking, a mix of total general idiocy and occasionally a sprinkling of psycho-ex-boyfriend and it’s really no wonder I am single.

I’d like to think this is somewhat endearing but I suspect it’s more enduring.

So what I really need to do for a girl to like me, is not like them. Which is a bit like my pool example above. What normally happens, if I manage to pull that off is the girl starts by liking me. i don’t like her back. And then we go through a changing of positions where i start to like her, and turn into love-sick-puppy and she gets over the liking me bit pretty quickly. Worse is once a girl has seen you as love-sick-puppy, there’s pretty much no going back. You’ve screwed the pooch (perhaps not the best turn of phrase here, but I like it. Not the pooch, the phrase).

So what I need to figure out is how to like girls without liking them.

Hmm, bollocks.

As part of the sevitz 2.0 upgrade program (a better sevitz for me, a better sevitz for everyone) I’m trying a lifestyle change in the mornings.

• Not setting an alarm¹
• Waking up whenever
• Going to the gym
• Getting into the office whenever²

I made the decision partly because I needed change, partly because I had put a stone on that I wasn’t happy about³ and partly because I think I might be more productive if I’m working out.

So far after 11 gym sessions in 11 days, I’m feeling better about life, healthier (even if I don’t look like Nadal ⁴. I’m not sure if I’m more productive, but I’m I figure I’m as least as productive.

However the bigger change is I feel more relaxed ⁵ at work. I’ve broken the pattern of “alarm goes off, look at time, feel tired, talk myself out of going to the gym, get into the office by 8, work till 8, feel like I’ve gone through a wringer, feel like shit, feel exhausted, feel unmotivated⁶”.

I realise that I probably have more flexible work hours than most. But I definitely think most companies would benefit by having employees in the gym at 9am than the office. For the most part. And if I’m going to consider leaving the office by 8, a good day^TM, then I might as well hit the treadmill/weights first off.

Lets just hope it turns me into looking like Nadal⁷.

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¹ Ok, it’s set for 8:35am, but I’ve not been woken up by it yet.

² This is normally between 9:15 and 10am, averaging closer to 9:15 than 10.

³ Last year I lost a stone through stress. This year I put a stone on through stress. Go Figure.

⁴ Yet!

⁵ Read, less stressed

⁶ Add your own adjectives here

⁷ Is it wrong that I might be sexually attracted to him. I can be straight and attracted to him right?

I used to describe twitter to non-users as “Facebook status, but just that and nothing else”. But that description is not that good and doesn’t impart the real value of Twitter.

Twitter is much more than just status, as it seems to connect people emotionally. I know much more about friends of mine on Twitter than friends on Facebook. Or in real life for that matter. I know who’s having a shitty day and who’s not. Who’s in a playful mood and who’s drinking and who’s working. I don’t know who’s getting laid, but give it time.

My real life friends I have no idea what’s going on with them at all. Unless they/we call or email and everyone is too busy to do that, so I only find out when I see them, when we have plans. Which these days (wedding, beddings (kids) and buidlings (house moves)) is greatly reduced.

On the other hand shooting a few 140 character updates doesn’t take time out of the day, and once you start using twitter actually enhances the day. It enhances it because of the interaction between twitters.

It’s just this tiny little thread that shifts it from being a flat medium like facebook status to a social medium. It’s that difference that connects you to people rather than positions you as mere observer. And whilst the observation thread is nice, by itself it starts to die as it isn’t self sustaining. Where as the observation with interactivity grows and gets stronger. |t means I become a participant in my friends lives occasionally even if that participation is just Stuart getting coffee

I guess Twitter is more a small version of Facebook wall than a version of Facebook status. Of course where it really kicks Facebooks arse is where Facebook is trying to be a walled garden (come to our site come to our site come to our site) Twitter is just a node to be accessed.

I can consume and publish via the web, via IM, via text, via applications (I ♥ Twitterific), via via via via via. Which means it’s both very easy to publish, to observe and to interact with my friends on Twitter. And because it’s non time consuming (I can wack out 140 chars in a few seconds) and I can use it anywhere and any time it’s a running constant in my life.

Compare that to Facebook, which only offers an RSS feed. So when someone has something about me in their Facebook status don’t even see it. Plus because twitter has no other shit it does I only follow people I want to. Where Facebook is kinda of a storage system for people I know, people I sort of know and people who I want to sleep with.

I know lots of people bored with Facebook. Twitter on the other hand is part of my daily life.

I just wish more real friends would use it. As it really does connect people (especially busy people) socially and emotively.

I walk through the city as it wakes,
as it stretches is arms and rubs it's eyes,
during that magical hours when its still, innocent, tranquil.

I get to the lake front and let the sun wash over me,
I open my arms, and tilt my head back,
God is djing and my iPod plays the soundtrack to my thoughts,

I realise what it is I am looking for as I walk along the water,
A connection,
Someone who walking beside me,
listening to their soundtrack,
not talking, not holding hands, just being there,
shares that experience with me.

And those two individual experiences are altered,
changed,
shared.

And that's what I'm looking for in life,
that same shared experience
of two individual experiences
with someone
not subject to any rules.

All the rest is details.